The Path of Most Resistance (P.O.M.R.) Is the Price You Pay to Build the Path of Least Resistance (P.O.L.R.) for Others

My boys,

There's something I want you to understand early—

If you want to become better… If you want to become successful…

You must choose the path of most resistance.

Not because it's easy. Not because it feels good.

But because it builds you.

And more importantly—

It teaches you how to become considerate.

Because this isn't just about making a path easier for others.

It's about becoming the kind of person who naturally thinks about others.

Who adds value.

Who gives more than they take.

I want you to understand this through something simple.

I planted a loquat tree from seed.

Out of many seeds, only a few sprouted. Out of those, only one truly grew.

And for almost four years—

Nothing.

No fruit. No reward. No visible return.

Just care. Just patience. Just consistency.

Watering it. Watching it. Protecting it.

Giving to it without getting anything back.

And then one day—

It produced fruit.

And once it started…

It kept producing.

Year after year.

For the rest of its life.

That's how life works.

That's how value works.

Most people today try to extract before they ever learn how to give.

They become predatory.

Always taking. Always looking for advantage.

But they never build anything real.

Because real value—

Comes from giving first.

From developing yourself into someone who contributes.

Into someone who makes things better for others.

That's how you become a productive member of a family.

A community.

A society.

And it's the same thing with what I've built.

I spent over a decade learning, failing, refining—

So that someone can walk in, order something,

And enjoy what took me 10 years to build in 90 seconds.

That's value.

That's consideration.

That's the path of most resistance.

So when you're faced with a choice—

Don't ask yourself what you can take.

Ask yourself what you can build.

What you can give.

Because if you give long enough—

Like that tree—

Life will give back to you for the rest of your life.

I love you.

— Baba

Moral of the story: Give long enough, and life will return to you for a lifetime.

Question for you: Are you trying to take from life… or become someone life gives back to?

Disclaimer: This story reflects real experiences and philosophies behind Backyard Brew. It is shared to inspire perspective and intention.

Author: R. Solace