Do We Create Problems… Or Solve Them?

My boys,

There's a question I wish more people would stop…

Sit with…

And ask themselves honestly:

Do we create problems…

Or do we solve them?

And I don't mean this as some surface-level question.

I mean deeply.

At your core.

In your habits. In your relationships. In your words. In your choices. In your energy. In your presence.

When you walk into a room…

Do things get better?

Or heavier?

Do people feel more clarity…

Or more confusion?

Do you help fix what's broken…

Or do you quietly become another source of destruction?

Because whether people realize it or not—

Every single one of us is affecting the world around us.

Every day.

You are either adding value…

Or subtracting it.

Building…

Or eroding.

Healing…

Or harming.

And one of the hardest truths I've had to understand is this:

A lot of people are creating problems without even realizing it.

Not always because they're evil.

Not always because they want to hurt people.

But because they're unaware.

They're on autopilot.

And autopilot is dangerous.

Because autopilot means you are living by programming instead of purpose.

You are reacting instead of reflecting.

Repeating pain…

Without ever asking where it came from.

Projecting wounds…

Without understanding why you carry them.

Passing down dysfunction…

Without realizing you became a vessel for it.

And this is where life gets painful.

Because there comes a moment—

If you are fortunate enough to wake up—

Where you begin to see yourself clearly.

And that moment…

Can hurt more than almost anything.

Because suddenly…

You start noticing your patterns.

You start noticing your excuses.

You start noticing how your own pain…

Your own ego…

Your own fear…

May have made you part of the problem.

And that realization…

Can feel brutal.

Spiritually. Emotionally. Mentally.

Because now ignorance is no longer bliss.

Now you see.

And once you truly see…

You cannot unsee.

That's why growth hurts so much.

Because growth is not just learning new things.

Growth is grieving old versions of yourself.

Versions built on survival. Versions built on trauma. Versions built on imitation. Versions built on fear.

And then asking:

Who do I actually want to become?

That question…

Is where destiny changes.

Because now you are no longer just existing.

Now you are choosing.

Now you are dictating your character.

Now you are deciding whether your life will be one of unconscious destruction…

Or intentional contribution.

And here's something most people don't fully understand:

There are generally two kinds of people.

The first—

Are those who avoid.

They avoid accountability. They avoid reflection. They avoid responsibility.

Not always maliciously…

Sometimes because they genuinely do not know how.

Sometimes because they've never seen self-awareness modeled.

Sometimes because facing yourself feels too painful.

So they stay asleep.

They stay reactive.

They let life happen to them…

And then often happen through them.

The second—

Are those who wake up.

And waking up can feel devastating.

Because now you feel everything.

You feel the weight of your choices.

You feel the consequences of your actions.

You feel the emotional, spiritual, and mental burden of realizing—

"I can do better."

And for many people…

That hurts.

Not because growth is bad—

But because they've never seen what true accountability looks like before.

They don't know how to rebuild.

They just know they can't stay the same.

And I need you to understand this:

That pain…

That discomfort…

That emotional heaviness…

May actually be the beginning of your real life.

Because now you are no longer just surviving.

Now you are problem-solving.

And I believe that's one of the highest callings a human being can have.

To solve more than they destroy.

To heal more than they harm.

To build more than they break.

To leave people…

Families…

Communities…

Businesses…

And this earth…

Better than they found them.

Not perfectly.

But intentionally.

To the best of their ability.

To the best of their knowledge.

And yes—

You will make mistakes.

You will create problems sometimes.

We all do.

But the goal is awareness.

The goal is correction.

The goal is asking:

Did I learn?

Did I grow?

Did I take responsibility?

Did I become better?

Because life is not about never making mistakes.

It's about whether you become someone who keeps repeating them…

Or someone who learns to solve them.

So I ask you again—

Do we create problems…

Or do we solve them?

Because if you ask yourself that honestly enough…

Every day…

It can shape the entire trajectory of your life.

And maybe…

If enough people asked themselves that…

It could shape the world too.

I love you.

— Baba

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Question: Are you unconsciously repeating problems… or consciously becoming someone who solves them?

Moral: The moment you become self-aware, you become responsible—and true growth begins when you choose to solve more than you destroy.

Disclaimer: This story reflects real experiences and philosophies behind Backyard Brew. It is shared to inspire perspective, self-awareness, and intentional living.

Author: R. Solace