# Decide in the Morning

Entry No. 228 · A Backyard Brew Story · The Mind

By Ryan Khalil (R.Solace) · Published 2026-11-01
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> Do not make in the dark a decision that belongs to the morning; night makes every trouble look larger than it is.

My boys,

The clocks went back last night.

This evening the dark came before I was ready for it.

I was still at the kitchen table with a stack of papers when I looked up and the window had turned into a mirror.

Only my own face looking back.

And behind it, nothing.

I want to tell you something I learned late, and learned the hard way.

Most of the worst decisions I have made, I made at night.

Not all of them.

But most.

A letter written too quickly.

A call I should have waited on.

A plan to walk away from something good because one day had gone badly.

At night, everything looks larger.

A bill looks like a mountain.

A hard word from a friend sounds like the end of the friendship.

A slow month at the shop looks like the end of the shop.

The dark does that.

It takes away the edges of things, and the mind fills in the rest.

And a tired mind almost always fills it in with fear.

I have discovered that the morning tells the truth more often than midnight does.

The same bill is still there at sunrise.

But it is a number again.

Not a verdict.

The same hard word is still there.

But now I can remember the twenty years of friendship that came before it.

Night asks the questions.

Morning is usually where the answers are.

So I made myself a rule.

Nothing that cannot be undone gets decided after dark.

I can think at night.

I can pray at night.

I can write the thing down and leave it on the table.

But I do not send it.

I do not sign it.

I do not say it.

Not until I have slept, and prayed, and had my coffee, and seen it in daylight.

Some nights that feels like weakness.

It isn't.

It takes more strength to wait than to react.

The long evenings are coming now.

For a while you will have more hours in the dark than in the light.

Use them well.

Rest in them.

Talk in them.

Pray in them.

But let the big decisions wait for the light.

I have found that God is rarely in a hurry when I am.

And when I have waited for the morning, I have almost always been glad I did.

Tonight I squared the papers into a neat pile.

I turned off the lamp over the table.

Whatever they are asking of me, they can ask again tomorrow.

And tomorrow, I will be ready to answer.

I love you.

— Baba

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**Question:**
What decision are you carrying tonight that deserves to wait for the light?

**Moral:**
Do not make in the dark a decision that belongs to the morning; night makes every trouble look larger than it is.

**Disclaimer:**
This story reflects real experiences and philosophies behind Backyard Brew. It is shared to inspire perspective and intention.

**Author:**
R. Solace

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